One Thing A Man Owes His Wife

In every relationship, there are responsibilities. And for any relationship to succeed, everybody must contribute his or her own quota. A one sided relationship usually ends up in jeopardy. This is because one party is neglecting his or her responsibility. Sometimes responsibilities are neglected because of ignorance other time out of negligence but the truth is that the result remains the same, whether done in ignorance or out of negligence.

One important thing a man owes his wife is protection. There are several areas a man is expected to protect his wife, which are as follows

1. A man is supposed to protect his wife from insult and abuse from children, family members or outsiders. In Africa it is believed that a woman is married not just to her husband but also to his entire family. This believe most times create the opportunity for the man's family member to interfere with their relationship, as much as even coming to insult and beat up the woman. This ought not to be so. The man is supposed to protect his wife from insult, abuse and battering from anybody no matter what she has done.

2. A man is expected to protect his wife from over labour. There are cultures where women are regarded as men's properties as such they are to do all the domestic work while the man who is regarded as the king of the house, sits down to drink and watch her and complain about areas where she is not doing well. This causes the woman to wear out rapidly. This ought not to be so; the man is expected to assist the woman in domestic work whenever he can. Especially, when the children are not around. But this does not mean that the woman should take it for granted.

3. A man should protect his wife from over bearing children. Especially in Africa where men breed children like chicken. Some men will want their wives to have 8, 10, or even 15 children as the case may be. Some men in Africa want to have many children because they are rich. While others want to have many children so that they can help them in farming and other jobs. Some also like to have many children for fear that some may die. It is believed that if they are many, some of them will survive premature death. Another reason why African men like having many children is due to their quest for male children. They want their wives to continue to bear children until a male child is born. Yet, some will want to have many children because they are the only child of their parent, as such they want to make up for the children their parent didn't have. When a woman gives birth to too many children, she ages faster in comparison with other women who bore just three to four children.

Men should protect their wives from this because sometimes the pressure to have a male child or have many children comes from the man's relatives. It is very important for men to protect their wives so that they will look younger stronger and healthier.

4. A man should always protect his wife in times of trouble. This is because women go through so much that they just need their husbands to be there for them. Some times the man allows the woman to suffer alone especially if she is the cause of the problem. But the man is expected to protect his wife in times of trouble no matter what. She is his other half. So whatever trouble she is going through, he should be a partaker.

When a woman is not given protection by her husband, she becomes vulnerable to outsider. This is a very dangerous state for the family. This is because what affects her, affects the entire family.

Thanks

Rev. Andrew Eli

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